Monday, September 28, 2009

Netiquette, Etiquette, forks, spoons, knives . . . and are flip-flops sometimes considered formalwear?

Ok . . . so my counselor tells this story about a former student who was a shoe-in for a summer job. Stacey had strong grades, an extracurricular resume that showed commitment and leadership, and her teachers and classmates really liked her. How could she go wrong? I mean she didn’t have to go to one of those formal dinners with 38 forks, 5 knives and about 12 plates and glasses per person so there was no chance to self-destruct in the area of social graces. How did she lose the job that was practically guaranteed? Well . . . on interview day she arrived in a business office in shorts . . . waxing heavily on the biggest imaginable chunk of bubble gum . . . and she brought her boyfriend to the interview. Can you bark, UH-OH?

Even I know there is a difference in the way you dress for certain occasions!



The employer called the counselor to say that, on paper, Stacey looked like the perfect candidate. On interview day, she didn’t quite grasp how she should dress and behave in a real-life, adult situation.

Employers and colleges can’t be too careful. They check a lot of things now–facebook and myspace pages, transcripts and references, sometimes even school attendance and discipline records. They might even check to see if you have a credit history–so that charge card you got to buy the latest Wii games and will be paying off for . . . say the next 10 years can hurt you in ways you might not even think about.
And, how about your writing style? Hate to be the bearer of bad bones, vocabulary and grammar matter. Let’s talk about texting. My paws aren’t cut out for those tiny keys, so most of the time my bark has to speak for itself. However, my foster siblings are always texting.

Frizb 2 nite @ my pad. Last 1 der brngs da pizza. Dont b l8! Lol. Fine—for friends.

Wazzup Dr. K? C u 2mrw @ U of Dawgs. L8er. NOT how you e-mail an admissions office!

I m class prez, cap’n of v futball, & my GPA iz a 4.0. Not the way to complete your online resume—for admissions or for employment.

Here’s what I know–text speak can kill you in a job or college inquiry, in college application essays, on job and college applications, and just about anywhere that standard English is the expectation.

By the way, here’s another red flag. My e-mail address for my friends is not the same one I use for professional inquiries or responses. Superhound @ or chainsawclyde @ might seem humorous to your friends, but corporate types and geezer admissions folks won’t likely be impressed. In fact, it’s likely that not even the hip, young admissions folks will take kindly to bizarre, inappropriate or threatening e-mail names.

While we’re on e-mail, why not get a free account and use it just for formal e-mails–you know, employers, the military, colleges–maybe even your grandmother! One special note: while this is a great idea, (and, did I mention that you can get free accounts?), if you provide e-mail account information to people, it goes without saying that you need to check that account! Once again, this is the kind of thing that can have disaster written on it. You have multiple e-mail accounts. You use one solely for professional purposes. However, you fail to check that account regularly. Here’s another counselor story...my counselor tells a lot of stories. Barclay truly liked college X in a neighboring state. Barclay’s profile–grades, activities, accomplishments, essays, test scores, and recommendations seemed to tilt the application in the direction of acceptance. Barclay even had a special e-mail for colleges and employers. However, after not checking the account for two weeks, Barclay found out too late that test scores had not been received by the college. Barclay missed being admitted to a top choice school because the e-mail went unchecked.

Another pointer–enthusiasm at an interview is good. Over-the-top demanding interest is scary. When you meet with interviewers, don’t be too insistent–remember this isn’t a tussle and rustle show.



While you aren’t a corporate Wall Street type yet, you are about to launch yourself into the adult world. Consider netiquette, etiquette, appropriate dress and appropriate language–in person and in writing. And . . . while I live on the water, flip flops are definitely not formal wear.

Woof,
Clyde

Monday, September 21, 2009

GLUB, GLUB, GLUB . . .

Procrastination is the enemy! Before you know it, Thanksgiving will be here. Blink your eyes and it will be Christmas. Senior year can get away from you in a hurry. While you’re deciding what to do (work, community college, four-year public university, four-year private university, military, apprenticeship), make sure you have thought about your credentials, how you stack up compared to others your age, and formulate a plan that matches your talents and hopes.

Here is some advice from my foster siblings who graduated last year:

Apply to colleges you’d really consider going to . . . do not keep your mind on one particular college too early in the process . . . try out for scholarships . . . visit every school you apply to and get it done early . . . sign up for housing early . . . start early senior year–don’t wait . . . be very honest in your essays . . . don’t necessarily look at where your friends are going–branch out–you may end up like me, going somewhere I originally ruled out completely . . . choose the school you like the best–not the ones others like . . . choose where you will be happy . . . consider smaller schools . . . make the decision for yourself . . . have options, do things early . . . spend lots of time writing essays and establish good relationships with your teachers and counselor . . . college visits matter . . . don’t freak out . . . don’t think a college is impossible to get in–you’ll feel worse if you never applied than if you apply and don’t get in . . . schools try to recruit you . . . take the hardest classes and don’t rule out any school–you will change your mind . . . take the ACT/SAT when you’re supposed to . . . be open-minded . . . . stay on everything early because it is much easier to deal with step by step . . . don’t put your hopes high in just one particular college . . . don’t wait till the last minute (Remember my motto: Procrastination is the ENEMY!) . . . just do what feels right–don’t make a decision until you know; I have six days left until I have to decide and right now I don’t have a clue (Note from Clyde: you should make your final decision, if college is your choice, by May 1 of your senior year, notify other schools of your decision to attend, and move on!) . . . don’t follow the crowd–go with what you know will be good for you . . . if you want to play a sport, apply early–it makes everything easier (Here’s my sport-related concern: I am particularly fond of frisbee, so if I select a four-year program, I’ve gotta check out the NCAA Eligibility Center) . . . don’t stress over the ACT/SAT–they are what they are–focus on actual learning and extracurricular activities . . .

Talking with friends can be very valuable as you make your plan. My friend Katy is very sympathetic to my confusion about my future. Find an informed sympathetic friend who has been through the what-do-I-do next stage of life and talk with him or her.



On the other hand, my friend Lilly is so overwhelmed about the thought of graduating that she has just jumped in and is now knee deep in applications with no real sense of direction about her future.



Find out who you are, what you want, develop a plan to get where you want to be and paw your way forward.

C U L8R.

WOOF,
Clyde

Friday, September 18, 2009

You Snooze—You Lose...

6 am – hit the alarm, homeroom by 8, school till 3, practice till 5, off to work till 8, say hi to my family, catch up with my friends, find time to eat somewhere along the way, check the clock – it’s 11:00 pm. Do I know where my homework is? Or field trip permission slip? Or job application that is due Friday? Or SAT review book? Or half-written admissions essay?

It’s no secret high school students have busy schedules. Between school, sports, clubs, activities, work, family, friends (and that’s just Monday through Friday)…Throw in weekend games, college visits, holidays, spring break, prom... I’m a busy guy.

Let’s face it, I’m dog tired at the end of the day,


and it is so easy to push those college applications aside for later, thinking the stress will be easier to face in a few hours…or days. Here’s a secret: YOU WILL BE MORE STRESSED OUT IF YOU DELAY! Getting behind is easy, catching up is not!

Here’s another secret: Your success is contingent upon having and executing a PLAN!

Plot all of your activities on a calendar each semester. It helps to start with the things like school, practice and work, that are set in stone and you cannot change. Take a look at the time you have left and determine the best use of your blank space – then stick to your schedule. Reevaluate your calendar on a regular basis and make changes as necessary. Organization is your friend!

Learn the ways, times and places you are most effective and alert. Are you an early bird? Set your alarm a little earlier than usual for one final study session before an exam. Are you easily distracted by TV? Find a quiet spot in your house, away from the noise and distractions going on in your living room or kitchen. I personally am most creative on a full belly, so I keep a stash of nice, filling Milk Bones handy before I work on an essay.

Act on your objectives and goals – NOW! Make sure you have taken the SAT or ACT and sent your scores to the colleges of your choice. Have a job interview next week? Make a list of possible questions you think your future employer might ask you and practice answering those questions in front of a mirror or with a friend. Don’t delay on application essays. Write...edit...rewrite. No matter what path your future holds, PREPARATION is key! Don’t be caught thinking, “If only I’d studied those vocabulary words…submitted that application on time…researched potential schools more…” You get the point.

Nurture yourself – body and soul. In spite of all the pressures your facing, in fact – because of them – you have to make time to take care of yourself…otherwise, what’s the point? You’ve probably heard it before: make sure you get enough sleep, eat your breakfast, don’t stay up all night – these are not just nagging phrases, they are necessary for your success! Additionally, don’t forget to enjoy life. You have a lot of work ahead of you, but it is also important to take a break, make time to spend with your friends, and just chill by yourself. You need to unwind, refuel and refocus, and get ready to start all over again.

One final word, keep things in perspective, and be realistic. Setting goals you know are unattainable will only disappoint you. That being said, don’t be a slacker, either. Aim high with an eye on reality. Mediocrity will get you nowhere unless you want to be unabashedly A V E R A G E! You must set goals in some way, shape, or form, or you’ll get stuck in a rut and never get anywhere. You don’t really want to live with your parents forever, do you?


No matter what your future holds, your brain can’t stay at the beach if you intend to be able to support yourself in the style you have become accustomed to (or could adjust to!

Woof,
Clyde

Monday, September 14, 2009

Extra, extra, read all about it!

So, we know we need to make good grades, take challenging classes and study hard for admissions tests, but what about those extracurriculars?

As I strolled around campus today, I couldn’t help but notice all of the activity that goes on beyond the classroom. As I passed the band room I heard the thump, thump, thump of the drum line practicing for their performance at the upcoming game and wagged my tail with the beat. On the field in front of the upper school building the cheerleaders were in perfect form and I stopped to watch them flip and jump…hmmm, I wonder if they could toss me in the air like that? A poster to my left announced an upcoming Yoga Club meeting. I know I could master downward facing dog for sure. Football, student government, art, chess club...



There’s a bounty of things to choose from to suit each and every interest. There are school clubs and sports, community activities, volunteer groups needing a hand, and some students even find time to have a paying job. As my college counselor tells me, it doesn’t matter WHAT you do – the important thing is to get involved! Additionally, doing a lot of one thing is better than a little bit of everything…which equates to a whole lot of nothing. What does this mean? Quality trumps quantity! By the way, can’t find an established activity you truly like? Start one—be entrepreneurial! Colleges and employers like to see that you have picked one or two activities to become completely immersed in rather than eight or nine activities in which you have little or no involvement.

Take my friend Sally - she’s acted as assistant manager for the volleyball team for four years, held office in the service club and recently ran her sister’s campaign for student body president. This is a great example of what colleges, and future employers, want to see!



Don’t forget, there is not one select perfect activity that is the be-all, end-all ticket to success. Follow your passions. Play ball, dance, volunteer, chase cats – whatever it is, do it well – distinguish yourself.

Woof,
Clyde

Wednesday, September 9, 2009

Inside Out vs. Outside In

There are a lot of opinions about how to approach selecting a college, a course of studies, or a career…I know those who just seem to throw darts or follow the pack as they select colleges, jobs, etc. I say your future is too important for dart throwing!

STOP!!! pawing on the outside-in road. Start with the inside-out approach. Knowing yourself first makes a lot of difference when it comes time to consider your future.

How can you get to know who you are? Use technology. Take all kinds of free assessments to help craft a real understanding of who you are and what’s important to you.

Here are a few places to consider looking for help (remember that every site has limitations!):

www.makingitcount.com –take the My College Styles and All About Me tests
http://www.nacacnet.org/StudentResources/Pages/default.aspx
https://myroad.collegeboard.com/myroad/navigator.jsp --a resource from College Board
http://www.mycollegeoptions.org/
http://www.actstudent.org/college/index.html --the ACT has resources for college and career planning (or http://www.actstudent.org/wwm/index.html for career information)
•Check out the Occupational Outlook Handbook (http://www.bls.gov/OCO/) to get career information—these guys can tell you what the job market is projected to be—pretty useful information.
http://www.forbes.com/2009/08/05/best-colleges-ranking-screener-opinions-colleges-09-tool.html
http://www.careercornerstone.org/scccnews/issues/2009/scccnews0909.htm
http://www.washingtonmonthly.com/college_guide/rankings/national_iniversityrank.php
http://nsse.iub.edu/
•Ask your counselor what resources he or she recommends to help you determine areas of strength and/or interest.

Are you getting the idea that tons of information awaits your paws on the keyboard?


To make your paw prints count—first find out who you are and what will make you happy (as long as it’s legal, ethical and moral)! It’s easy to lose your focus and feel pressured into doing something else. For inspiration, google Chad Hurley—he didn’t go to a big name school, but pursued his dream, did something he loved, was really good at what he did, and what an impact (and, if it’s relevant to you—he can buy a lot of bones for meal time!).

Woof—till later,

Clyde

Friday, September 4, 2009

Let's Get Goin'

Macalester? Harvey Mudd? Middlebury–I like diversity so this would be a great fit for me. I also really like food so maybe The Culinary Institute of America? My local community college has a highly touted culinary program–it would be closer and less expensive and I could even live at home. Then again, Jim Cantore has a lot of excitement in his job–so perhaps I should study meteorology at Lyndon State like he did? And maybe...

Whoops . . . guess I should introduce myself first . . . I’m Clyde. I have hundreds of foster brothers and sisters who I have watched go on all kind of educational adventures, so I’m trying to decide what path I might take when it’s time for me to leave Bayside. It’s easy to let time get away with you. I remember when I first came to school–graduating and moving on was forever away. It’s getting closer and closer, so I need a plan!

Will I graduate? Mrs. Willis says that only about 7 out of 10 high school students graduate–that is SCARY! Will I be able to take that next step to do what I want to do?

How am I gonna know what is right for me? Who am I really? What’s important to me? What do I want to become when I’m out on my own and taking care of myself 24/7? Will I be able to support myself in the style to which I’ve become accustomed (or as one of my foster brothers says–could adjust to)?

This year, I’m gonna find out all of these things . . . and you’ll have the opportunity to follow along and read my mind as I paws and decide what-to-do-after high school. Does my bloodline really matter? Do my parents have enough bones to make me a development case in the admissions offices? What’s right for me--that’s what it’s really all about, about finding good options for me.

Follow me as I consider all the possibilities and climb my way to the future...


Woof,
Clyde

Back in Session

Boy oh boy, am I glad that school is back in session and the students are back at Bayside! After a long, restful summer, I have enjoyed the past few weeks back on campus seeing all of my old friends.

Yes, the students and faculty are finally back in the groove of their classes and schedules, but they are not the only ones balancing a lot of activity this year...it seems the time has come for me to start thinking about my future as well. Life after Bayside? I know it's a difficult concept to grasp, but it's a time that all of us must eventually face and it's never to early to start planning for it!

I invite you to share my journey this year as I heed the advice of Mrs. Willis and a few old familiar friends as I plan for life after graduation.

And it's not just the students of Bayside who could learn a thing or two. No, I think students all over the country may want to heed a little advice from their four-legged friend, which is why I'm excited to announce...I've gone national! http://blogs.makingitcount.com/tccp/about-tccp-blog.html The folks at Making It Count from monster.com seem to think my friendly face will be quite an attraction. Hollywood, here I come!

Woof,
Clyde